Break up – Surviving a failed relationship


by L.W. Barker

Break ups and failed relationships are a part of life. They are as common as living and dying. They take place daily, and so you must be prepared for them when they occur in your life.  A few years ago I broke up with a girlfriend of a few months. My days and nights were ones of torment and bad memories. It is very easy to fall in love, but even easier to fall out of love. And when the latter happens, life can feel like a living hell.  But all is not lost for there are things that you can do to get through this most difficult of times.

In the months following my break up, I was lost to the fact that there is more to life than this girl. I would come home after work, not bothering to turn on my lights, and lay there on the bed listening to sad love songs. I noticed that I only felt this way after work though, and so I got more involved with work. I stayed late for most of the time I had to work, just to keep my mind off of what could have been. I also needed time to devise a similar plan as to what to do when I went home.

However, one night it dawned that I had to go out and have fun to forget about my failed relationship. And so, I went cruising through the town that night and eventually ended up at the local movie theater where I decided to see a new film. This routine enabled me to focus on the present instead of dwelling in limbo on the past. It also gave me the key to open the door to a new and improved relationship which I eventually found.

Breaking up is hard to do, but with the right mindset, the pain of it can be overcome. By keeping yourself occupied, whether by work and or play, you too will be able to emerge from the darkness and pain of a failed relationship.

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